Shame and Mentalisation - Challenge, Confrontation and Consequences


Mentalisation is a form of imaginative mental activity which assists us all in understanding ourselves and each other. Shame is a social and relational feeling state which helps us care about each other and relate with caring and understanding. Both these neurological processes can be significantly impacted by early trauma and adverse childhood experience and have a significant impact on what can be perceived as challenging behaviour. Through the lens of shame and mentalization we consider how best to respond to such challenge, to avoid confrontation and make consequences make sense.

Teaching Methods

Course material provided will be delivered via description and dialogue by the facilitator supported by power point slides. There is a strong emphasis on practice skills and development and group participation is encouraged throughout and essential to participant learning. This will include video clips, group and small group exercises and examples from and for practice development.

Length of Course

This is a one day training course lasting four to six hours depending on organisational and attendee needs and requirements.


Any appropriately sized room with a projector, screen and flip chart

Group Size

Minimum group size 6. Can be taught to up to 30 at one time. Can be offered as a conference presentation for larger groups.

Who will benefit / target audience

This training day is interesting and helpful to anyone working with children and young people in a range of context including vulnerable and hard to reach populations.

No previous knowledge of mentalization and shame is required, and this course can be offered at a variety of levels.

Main benefits

To understand the concepts of mentalisation and shame and how early trauma can adversely impact on the development of these processes. To be able to better understand and work with challenge using these perspectives including how to avoid and respond to confrontation and when and how to use consequences, which make sense to children and help them feel safer.


The power point presentation will be made available after the training

A list of readings and resources will be provided at the end of the power point

Other Related or Connected Courses

Neurodevelopment and Trauma Series which consists of: Neurodevelopment and Trauma (1 day) Shame and Mentalisation (1 day) Adolescent development (1 day) Healing Neurodevelopmental Trauma (1 day)

Lead Associate/Associate Skills, Knowledge

MA level professionally qualified practitioners with a wide variety of skills as trainers, lecturers and educators. They offer extensive theory to practice knowledge and experience of attachment theory and include psychotherapists, consultant nurses and social workers, psychologists and related health professionals.

Next Steps

We encourage any organisation which would like to make use of our courses and training to contact us to discuss.
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